And for those of you who have done it, know that online dating can challenge your mental and emotional sanity, and to do it in godliness can seem almost impossible. Test him, ask him hard questions, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. There are so many people out there — yes, other people that love God and love others! Yes, this year I’ve cried more tears about this process than I could have ever imagined, but there is a bright side: In a culture of ever-growing isolation, this tool allows us to be available to guys who are also seeking marriage. Leah is the oldest of four girls, works in the restaurant development world with a degree in Business Management, and enjoys exploring intentional living.But through the endless messaging, countless phone conversations, text messages and date after date after date, I’ve learned a few lessons. Remember, you are getting to know a stranger, so don’t say to yourself, I’m OK if all we do is email for four months. Guys are not clear sometimes when they are not interested, so you have to read their actions and not their words. If they don’t reach out, if they don’t call it a “date,” if they don’t call you, just let it go. I can “put myself out there” in a classy way and be faithful to the desire that God’s given me. Online dating is like walking in a minefield, and we are only a few wrong decisions away from destruction. This includes meaningful relationships, Cross Fit, long-distance running, good books and maybe the occasional piece of dark chocolate.Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.When I hear about a girl's man, I'm assuming we probably shouldn't be on that date period.She thinks: Tinder is a Greyhound bus full of slobbering old men. Try this: Stop carpet bombing; investigate surgical strikes. Answer four basic questions: who, what, where, and how tall. You think: In a world of bunny rabbit boilers, reveal no identifying details.
If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner. I thought I was an emotionally stable human being before this — that theory has since been challenged. Praying for wisdom and grace for us all as we walk this out. This year has been my initiation into all things online dating, and let’s just say that the tears factor has been exponential.Women give high marks to Bumble, the “lady first” app, for safety features that chase away twitchers, droolers, and stalkers. Try this: Pictures are a split-second opportunity to land that right swipe, so: 1) Get a great headshot to lead with (read: smile, take off your sunglasses). Or check out Bristlr, for women who like men who grow beards. You think: I rock a six-pack in my mirror selfie, I’ll post that. 2) Demonstrate your interests with a landscape shot in which she can also see your face. You do this by being original and, above all, specific about your interests.