There's serious stuff out there, like HIV and STDs, date rape, online stalkers."You're looking for a connection, someone you're physically attracted to -- who's physically attracted to you -- plus someone who doesn't make you feel bored from the get-go," Schwartz tells Web MD. "But don't let the love bug mesmerize you," says Paul Falzone, author of the book, Find the Right One and CEO of "The Right One"and "Together," two nationwide dating services.But deep down you may have a nagging feeling that something just isn’t right.Don't mistake controlling behavior for innocent concern. For people who grew up in homes with very controlling or abusive parents, it can be difficult to distinguish between control and concern in dating relationships.There are so many "fish" in the pool of dating that it's not worth your time wondering, "why? If and when you find someone who's equally as interested in you as you are in them, consider yourself luckier than a lottery winner!
It can even feel like too much work starting over with someone new.Falzone tells a story of a North Carolina woman who fell "totally in love" with a Massachusetts man she met online. Eventually, he encouraged her to sell her house, pack everything into a truck, and prepare herself and her two young children for a new life.Then comes the email saying, "I can't go through with this.The way to control that is to be with you at all times.3. Controlling people want to keep you all to themselves.While these may seem romantic and intimate, it is a clear way to isolate you from people that can help and support you in getting out of the relationship.4. You forget to call and say you are running late or you forget that you promised to go to a movie, and your partner responds with extreme anger, hurt or bitterness. Controlling people see everything as an attempt to hurt them, and they resent even minor slights or mistakes way out of proportion.5. A partner has the right to like or dislike what you wear.The topic is dating, and the custom is as old as Adam and Eve. Two love experts offer their dating advice: Face it; finding a great mate takes some research.