After a particularly bad breakup, I was re-evaluating my past choices in boyfriends and felt like I was missing something.
In the midst of dramatically labeling the entire male race as untrustworthy and deceitful, my thoughts turned to who I could trust.
More precisely, would it make your relationship easier…or harder?
When I set out to explore this question for this piece, one of my own stories kept coming back to me.
As a friend, he will not only be aware of your personal weaknesses, but he will know how to respond to them in a way that is constructive to the relationship and to your desire to improve yourself.
On that same note, you'll be aware of his bad fashion sense, his corny jokes, and his strange fondness for period pieces before you start dating him.
And who knows more about us than just our name and phone number?
Sure, the transition from friend-to-boyfriend might feel a little weird at first, but we think that the benefits of dating one might just overrule the awkwardness.
But like any other type of relationship, this kind of romance has its drawbacks. “We already knew each other extremely well when we started dating, so we didn’t have that awkward ‘getting to know each other’ period,” says Julie*, a senior at Northeastern University who dated her male best friend.
A trustworthy, genuine boyfriend or girlfriend can often become your best friend.
But what if you were already best friends from the start?
There was, of course, that best guy friend who was rooting for me to overcome yet another heartache.
Not surprisingly, I began to think, “Wait, should I revisit this, now that we are both single at the same time?